6 Traits Of People Who Live Peaceful Lives (They Might Surprise You)

1. Let Go Of The Ego And Just Be Yourself

“Take time to be an impartial observer of life particularly when an ending is causing despair.” Lao Tzu

We don’t need to be anything or anyone. We need to impress no one. As a society we have become concerned with having the latest fashions, how we look and impressing others. What for? Who cares? We are trying to fulfil other people’s expectations of us. That doesn’t really make any sense. It just drives us to distraction, always trying to prove ourselves to others. Even when we succeed at creating the right look, social status, image or whatever it is we are trying to achieve, most people don’t notice. So why bother? Our preoccupation with our exterior persona has diverted us from our true self. Once we have let go of our ego state we feel a freedom a freedom that allows us to truly experience life to its fullest without the weight of expectation holding us back.

2. Learn From Masters

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” Albert Einstein

By studying great teachers and mentors we can develop wisdom from what others are willing to share. If you seek to learn, grow and become wise then you need to associate with wise and knowledgeable people. If you wish to learn any craft or art then a good place to start is to watch what others are doing. Modelling is the process of observing parts of our own and other people’s behaviour in order to reproduce it and improve our functioning and outcomes. We can reduce the amount of time it takes to learn a new trade, skill or anything you wish to replicate. The great thing about modelling is it is all about leverage. You gain access to someone else’s knowledge base and experience that may have taken them a lifetime to compile, develop and learn. That’s why books,  reading and watching educational programs can be great teachers. These may be no substitute for  experience, however we can be valuable assets to help speed up the learning process. A single book may contain twenty or thirty years of condensed wisdom, yet you may be able to read the book in two or three days. That’s what I am talking about, leverage. If you have taken on board the information contained in the book then you have effectively gained new ideas, skills, wisdom and knowledge in a fraction of the time. Thirst for knowledge enhances one’s capability and brings forth new ideas, reasoning and creativity. So seek out great teachers and masters and study what they have learned and the wisdom they share. Be prepared to explore the mysteries of the universe and set yourself free.

3. Bring Awareness To Your Life 

“The unaware life is not worth living.” -Socrates

Today there are growing trends toward living a holistic, sustainable lifestyle with a focus on quality of life, not quantity. We are moving into a period where we will see an ever increasing focus on personal development and contribution to society. People have been living like this for many decades, yet for the majority, it continues to be a challenge to balance work with lifestyle. The meaning of life is elusive, with the wealth of the 21st century providing humanity with many distractions. Technological advancements provide entertainment and lifestyle opportunities that only decades before did not exist. Practice being in the moment and experiencing the sensations, feelings and emotions every moment has to offer. Our potential is limitless, we just have to be aware that our life is a function of our habits and manage these accordingly.

4. Realize That We All Experience Conditioning Of Some Kind

“The only source of knowledge is experience” Albert Einstein

Be aware of how we are influenced by various communications, past experiences, situations and emotions. Modern society and many of the individuals within it have lent themselves to being conditioned. Life and its great mysteries can be glossed over. Many of us end up confused, isolated and questioning. Engaged in trivial activities or hedonistic pursuits we try to distract ourselves from the deeper meaning of life. We are conditioned to see things as right or wrong, black or white, up or down. The teachings of the spiritual masters tell us that everything is perfect. Let’s enjoy the moment, life and everything we encounter. Look for the serenity, beauty and diversity in everything we do, see and experience. It is like the Zen story where the man walks into the butcher and says “I want the best meat you have”. The butcher replies: “It is all the best”. Do you constantly seek the best this or that or are you content with what you have? Why do we want to compete, be stronger, faster, more successful or whatever it may be? Who told us this was right? Once we step back and see how our conditioned states impact our lives we can start to let go, we can then move toward a place that is free, free from prejudice, hatred and violence toward a place of love, compassion and understanding.

5. Understand You Create Your Own Experiences 

“Experience is not what happens to a man. It is what a man does with what happens to him.” Aldous Leonard Huxley

Allowing ourselves to observe experiences allows us to make more informed and educated decisions. Observation is an important element in the development of our evolution. Much of today’s society revolves around ‘doing’ rather than ‘being’ and observing. Take notice of your experiences. Too often we overlook, turn away, and do not learn from our experiences.  Rarely do we take a long hard look at our experiences and learn from them. We walk right back into the same old patterns and bad habits. Only by observing as the great masters do, can we learn and understand that our experiences are neither good nor bad. It is how we perceive them and what we learn from these experiences that make a difference. We must ask ourselves, what did I learn from that experience and what can I take away from it? Why did this happen to me? What impact did my actions have on others and the environment? The choices we make and how we interpret interactions creates our experience of life. It is the choices we make that determine what kind of life we live. Do we want to live a life of misery or happiness? Our thoughts control how we react to others and our environment. By understanding we are in charge, we control our destiny can we move from a world of separation to one of connectedness, love and compassion.

6. How Do You Live Your Life – Through Fear Or Love? 

“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” Buddha

To have a happy life is to live with love and release fear. Human beings are primarily motivated by two underlying emotions, love and fear. These two extremes influence every aspect of our lives. Fear is situated at one end of the spectrum while love is at the other end. On an economic and societal scale we can see that entire industries are dedicated to and thrive on fear. Great masters understand that one who lives life through love can conquer all. Masters know that they have no need for approval, they are not attached to external forces or things, they understand that happiness, compassion and love must be manifested within.